The Importance of Reading Books About Polyamory When Starting a Polyamorous Relationship

The Importance of Reading Books About Polyamory When Starting a 

Polyamorous Relationship

Polyamory, the practice of consensually engaging in multiple romantic or sexual relationships simultaneously, 

has gained attention and acceptance in recent years. However, embarking on a polyamorous journey can be a 

complex and challenging endeavor. To navigate the intricacies of polyamory successfully, individuals should consider 

reading books about polyamory. In this blog, we'll explore the importance of educating yourself through literature 

when starting a polyamorous relationship and the top 6 books I recommend. 

#1 The Ethical Slut

For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, 

this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. 

Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary 

to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle - from self-reflection and honest communication to 

practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, 

resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.

https://amzn.to/3POnC9M

#2 The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy

Embarking on a non-monogamous relationship can be a daunting experience, opening old wounds that cause anxiety, 

fear and confusion, something Lola Phoenix knows about all too well.

In this all-you-need-to-know guide to exploring non-monogamy, polyamory and open relationships, Lola draws 

upon their years of experience in giving advice and being non-monogamous to provide guidance for every stage 

of your journey, helping you to prioritize your mental health and well being along the way.

https://amzn.to/3S4yQtm

#3 Mono in a Poly World: What to Do When Your Partner Is Polyamorous and 

You Aren't

What do you do when your partner is polyamorous and you aren’t? This is the question author Tazmyn Ozga 

began to ask herself in 2015 when, after 25 years of a monogamous marriage, her husband declared his need to 

be polyamorous and free to have multiple relationships. Their decision to stay together and try to make it work 

began her journey of learning about polyamory through reading and research, and life experiences and lessons. 

Mono in a Poly World is a guidebook and resource for those navigating the path of monogamous-polyamorous 

relationships. This book covers the basics of polyamory as well as the issues that make mono-poly relationships 

unique and challenging. 

https://amzn.to/3Q03em5

#4 The Polyamory Toolkit: A Guidebook for Polyamorous Relationships

For nearly two decades, Dan and Dawn have navigated their journey in polyamory by being proactive,

insightful and analytical. Early on, there was very little information or resources available, so the adventure 

required them to learn from their mistakes as well as their successes.

Each have multiple partners and have a history of polyamory relationships lasting multiple years. They have put 

the time and thought into creating a "toolkit" of knowledge others can implement to help their relationships survive 

and thrive.

https://amzn.to/3QiWfpL

#5 The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival

Polyamory is not always easy. With multiple partners often come more complex relationships to navigate. 

This practical guide looks at the common causes of polyamorous breakups, identifies strategies to avoid ending 

relationships, and provides you with the toolkit to survive a breakup.

Kathy Labriola uses real-life examples and expert insight as a counselor and nurse. From how to handle jealousy 

to the practicalities of managing money and time with multiple partners, this book includes tips and insights from 

the polyamory community.

https://amzn.to/3Q0RwYC

#6 The Polysecure Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security 

in Loving Relationships

The Polysecure Workbook encourages examination of any attachment challenges you may have experienced in 

your opening up process and offers insights into how to build secure relationships. Through practical exercises, 

you will explore your own attachment history, examine your reasons for practicing nonmonogamy and the 

different styles of nonmonogamy that you relate to, and consider whether you rely on relationship structure 

for your attachment security. The Polysecure Workbook provides the tools needed to navigate the complexities 

of multiple loving relationships and to build personal security.

https://amzn.to/3FlEgc7

In conclusion, when embarking on a polyamorous relationship, reading books about polyamory can be an invaluable 

step in your journey. These books offer not only knowledge and guidance but also a sense of community and understanding. 

They empower individuals to build strong, healthy, and consensual relationships, emphasizing the importance of 

communication, consent, and self-awareness. By educating yourself through literature, you are taking a proactive 

approach to creating fulfilling and sustainable polyamorous connections, setting a solid foundation for the beautiful 

complexities of the polyamorous lifestyle.

Justine Cuthbertson

Empowered Polyamory

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